In October of 2011, nearly 6 years ago, I wrote a blog post about why Orthodox people have fewer dogs – and some are downright scared of them – than the non-Orthodox. In part:
1. They have more kids instead of pets. Me, if I ever thought I had the time and mental energy to handle caring for an animal, I’d say to myself: Self! What is stopping you from bringing another child into this world?
2. For kids of Holocaust survivors, dogs were a no-no, as the Germans used them for crowd control, and worse.
3. There are some Halachic issues with caring for a pet on Shabbat and holidays. Yes, yes, I know that they can all be surmounted, but some people would prefer to avoid this issue in the first place.
4. Part of Jewish philosophy is the stressing of the distinction between human and animal. I don’t know if or how that relates, but I sure find it interesting, especially as society as a whole tends to humanize animals and animalize humans. Think Curious George all the way down to the Berenstein Bears, to the zoo telling us we are simply cooler primates. Jewish philosophy disagrees.
5. Due to the above and possibly reasons I’ve never thought of, it has become culturally unusual for Orthodox people to own dogs – which drives its own resistance.
I’m cringing for two reasons: firstly, I hate reading old posts because my writing style has changed and the old one bugs me. Second, I have a dog and am tired of anti-dog bias among those who just don’t know better.
So I’d like to revisit all my reasons and kind of debunk them.
- No. Just no. Kids and pets are totally different. Why did I even compare? Pets enhance kids. Pets are good for kids. Pets are therapeutic. I think more Orthodox kids need dogs and adults too for that matter.
- This is true, but it’s a reason for the ignorance, not an actual reason not to have them.
- This is also true. There are Halachic issues with caring for a pet on Shabbat and holidays, but there are Halachic issues with cooking food and serving it hot and we figure it out. We work around it; it’s not a big deal.
- Meh. Pet owners get the difference. If anything, the more I interact with my dog the more I feel like I understand G-d’s plan in bringing dogs and animals in general into the universe. If anything, before I had a pet I was guessing at what people with pets thought. Yes, losing a pet is traumatic and it hurts. No, it’s not like losing a human.
- True. Culturally unusual and people who want to be usual will care about this. But we can also challenge cultural norms that have no real basis or that mean a large part of our community’s kids are losing out.
Our dog has enhanced our family in so many ways and been a therapeutic influence. In fact I am starting to wonder if our dog is a reincarnated soul with a mission to complete on his journey here. Chabad’s website chabad.org says this:
In a long and fascinating letter, the fourth Lubavitcher rebbe, Rabbi Shmuel, known as the Rebbe Maharash, explains that although some Kabbalists were of the opinion that animals don’t have immortal souls,5 according to the teachings of the Arizal animals do in fact have independent souls, and they do go to heaven.6 The Arizal is generally considered the final arbiter for all Kabbalistic teachings.
I guess you can say I’ve changed. My views have changed. And that is something I’m proud of. Woof.
Ruchi, this is probably one of my favorite posts on OOTOB. Thank you for highlighting the tremendous benefits that people gain from connecting with animals. I wish more people in the frum community were aware of this and open to experiencing the healing, growth, unconditional love, and self-development that emerges from owning and bonding with a pet. I love the concept that animals do get some form of heaven. Thank you!
I think economics is a factor for some people. Pets are a luxury.
Ruchi –
HOW DO YOU TAKE CARE OF ANOTHER THING?!? I just can’t fathom it, i have so much as it is, i can’t picture even adding to my responsibilities a simple goldfish!!!! 🙂 bH.
my father in law has owned multiple cats for basically all his life – right now i beileve he has seven plus a dog or two. its quite extreme 🙂
also. horse therapy is also becoming more and more recognized and popular, both in Israel and America, for its intense effectiveness.
ok and mainly – you’ll be pleased to know the following:
my son goes to a gan (he’s 5) for kids that need help developmentally (motor planning, auditory processing, etc). The gan takes place in a home of a family in the neighborhood (an ultra chareidi very very frummy type neighborhood) and this family has i think 7 kids, and also… has TONS of pets!!! A rabbit, birds, turtles, fish, a quail, guinea pig…
And the kicker? Not one, but TWO furry CHINCHILLAS in a huge, life-size cage right when you walk into the house. they use the animals for the kids who live there, and also a lot for the gan, all the therapy kids, etc. It’s really wonderful. (tho I myself am a self-proclaimed animal hater…sorry, dont cringe). anyway, im happy for my son, he loves it of course! cant understand why i dont like touching animals 🙂
Anyway, maybe the Jewish world is changing in this regard…. who knows??
That’s amazing – about the pet therapy gan. How do I take care of one more thing? I don’t know. All I know is that my son needed a dog so we got one. We figured out the details afterwards. The family helps. We all pitch in. He’s sweet and lovable so that makes it less of a chore. It’s all what you’re used to.
The Talmud also speaks directly against dogs. It’s not a halachic ruling against owning dogs but an animus that at least some rabbis had towards them and that is enough for some. Dogs are considered unclean in Islam — there is a general cultural ambivalence in the Near East about them that is shared by different religious groups. Dogs were considered working animals but not companions in earlier times.
That said, I’m so glad you found a companion that is wonderful for your family. We will be called to account for those pleasures permitted to us that we did not enjoy … for your family, that includes the right dog!
http://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-arts-and-culture/books/165573/dogs-and-cats
interesting tablet article there. I do remember learning in the books of Prophets that people insulted each other by calling each other a “dead dog.” Not sure if it was the dead part or the dog part that was meant to be offensive though.
I think it is wonderful that you revisit old posts and give new angles on them. Thanks!
I remember that when you first posted about Os and dogs, your reason #1, about asking yourself why not have another kid instead, made me think a lot about having kids vs. ‘having’ other things. That said, I agree that kids and (well-trained) dogs are often a great combination. When we considered getting a dog, a colleague with dog and kids said, “A dog in the house absorbs tension, it’s a sponge for tension.” And he was so right: When teenage daughter is sulky, she can treat the dog as her ally; when younger son is bored, he can play with dog; when I need an excuse to get some exercise, the dog’s wagging tail gets me to walk; and so on. Everyone can feel good about the dog (and now we added a cat, who thinks he is a dog) and that unifies us even when we are not getting along.
The dog is therapeutic for many of us. It’s quite amazing.