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Uncategorized April 2, 2012

The Deification of the Children

My friend Adina Soclof is a parenting expert, blogger, and all-around good person.  Today I’m over at her site,, blogging about the Deification of the Children, which originally appeared on my “other blog,”

An interesting trend is emerging in the way some parents recognize
their children’s milestone events, that I believe is
generation-specific: Facebook birthdays posts, for instance: have you
ever seen friends post happy birthday messages to their “awesome,
accomplished, talented” kids (who are turning 5) who have “taught me so
much, inspired me” and thanking them for the “honor and privilege of
being your mom”?

Which leaves me to wonder what exactly has a five-year-old
accomplished on this earth that hasn’t been facilitated by, organized
by, paid for and dutifully recorded digitally by his parents?

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Uncategorized December 18, 2011

Distractions: Updated

I don’t usually “mommy-blog,” nor is this post “Orthodox” or
even “Jewish.”  But: so what?
I’ve always been a voracious reader, since early childhood –
getting out books by the dozen at the library, then losing myself for hours.
Now I’m a mother and have precious little time for such a
luxury.  I’ve also become much more
selective about what I read.  But I’ve discovered
something else about myself: every now and then I still need to escape the
household treadmill.  And I get bored of
said treadmill very easily.
When my big kids were small, my escape involved talking to
friends and family on the phone or snatching a quick read while the kiddies
were playing.
Now, it’s Facebook, texting, or reading a really interesting
article or blog comment on my phone.
For some reason, the latter makes me feel a lot worse than
the former.  Why?
Same or different? 
What do you say?
Uncategorized October 11, 2011

Respect Your Elders

One of the hugest things I was raised with is the very important concept of respecting one’s elders.

Yes, I know we all are, but it was like in technicolor, 24/7.

There’s a grandparent in the room?  They get the best seat and the most attention.

A parent says something?  You hop to it, pronto.

The younger you are, the less honor and veneration you get.

The older you are, the closer you are to the Sinai experience, and therefore, the holier you are – by definition.

Yes, I was a normal child, and didn’t always agree or like the things my parents did.  But boy, did I know to be careful with how I expressed that.  Not because I was angelic, and not because I was punished or intimidated or anything unhealthy like that, but it was part of the air I breathed that this was a core and central part of being a Jew and a mentsch.

Now I’m trying to raise my kids this way.  It’s not always easy, or guaranteed.  But the results are priceless.  And the only reason it works is because it’s a third party – God.  He made up these rules, not me.

There’s the rub, right there.