There are 6 fast days on the Jewish calendar:
The man, the woman, the long, the short, the black, the white.
Man: Fast of Gedalya (day after Rosh Hashanah)
Woman: Fast of Esther (day before Purim)
Long: Shiva Asar B’Tammuz – longest because of the number of daylight hours (it’s in July)
Short: Asara B’Teves – fewest daylight hours (January)
Black: Tisha B’Av – blackest, most mournful day on our calendar
White: Yom Kippur – white for purity, cleansing, and repentance
Do you dread Yom Kippur? I do too, sometimes. In my immature moments I dread the fasting and high expectations of prayer. In my more mature moments, I welcome the opportunity to truly dust off the cobwebs and stand bravely to face my demons.
And in my most mature moments, I dread it again, wondering if I’ve overestimated myself.
Yom Kippur looks white. It’s quiet. People walking to services, from services, dressed simply. They’re quiet. It’s a serious day. Nothing else matters.
It smells fresh, like after a good rain.
It tastes metallic, from fasting.
It sounds like a rush of the ocean in prayer, the melody swelling and falling like the tide.
It feels like the pages of my machzor (holiday prayerbook). Turning, turning, turning. I’m cold, from not eating. I pull my sweater close around me.
That was in my youth.
Now, I care for my kids. Teach at JFX. Run to catch a small morsel of the service at shul (synagogue). I grab it like the hungry woman I am. Try not to kvetch about the fasting; that’s SO not what it’s about.
Hope I’m using the hours well, as they tick, tick, tick away…
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Well put, Ruchi!
Beautifully expressed, Ruchi! When I was a teenager and overwhelmed by an entire day with no food, my grandmother assured me that it would get easier. That part has, at least partly because the emphasis has shifted, as you say. I welcome this entire day of real moral work, which almost feels like a luxury in my insanely busy life. Such a wonderful gift, the chance to reset, to dive deep into my own soul and come back up with course corrections that will carry me through the next year. Over decades, this process has made a huge difference in all of my relationships, in my work and my play, in my health and my commitment to tzedakah. G'mar tov, everyone.
This was really beautiful. It reminds me of why Yom Kippur was my favorite holiday when I first started identifying Jewishly (these days, I'd say it's in a photo finish with Pesach). I got to spend more time in shul these last couple of weeks than I have in the last six months, because of where I'm normally living (I went out of the country for the holidays), and it was just so great. Heck, it must've been, if I'm talking about "getting to" spend all day in shul instead of "having to."